Well, announced the baby on facebook! I received so much support and was so happy to tell everyone. We were bursting at the seams!
I am so thankful for all the friends and family who offered well wishes and kind words. THANK you, dear friends. Your positive reactions were a breath of fresh air.
Went to school. Forgot my wallet. Couldn’t meet a dear friend at the grocery store.
At 12:30 this morning, I posted a list of our potential baby names onto forums on a baby site I visit:
In only 21 hour time, my forum post has received 1,071 views and 58 responses. Cool, right?! Wrong. The responses consist of negativity and hate. The overwhelming majority consist of HATE and confusion towards those names. They respond with things like “Do you want your child to hate you?” and “That sounds pretentious and that you are making up drama” and “This is ridiculous, are you serious?”
At first, it made me really upset. Then I realized something: It is easier to be negative than positive. It is also easy to be mean to a stranger when you’ve got the protection of a computer screen.
Then, I realized right then and there what I had to do: I had to be nothing but a positive person on forums and reevaluate my actions and words. I thanked the ladies kindly for responding and giving input.
It is sad that the women on these forums are cruel, mean, and hateful to a stranger seeking honest advice and information. It makes me really upset that negativity is so much easier than being positive.
For the love of Pete, don’t be a negative nancy. Be kind, even to strangers. ESPECIALLY to strangers.
Today marks the beginning of week 5. I’ll update a few baby things and then the full update at the end of the week.
Symptoms: A little more cramping today, feeling a mild pinching and throbbing. I think of it as the baby’s heartbeat (I know it’s not!) rather than cramps so I stay positive.
I have been seriously moody still. Perhaps it is me processing the news or maybe hormones. Either way, it’s gotta get under control or there’s gonna be one big moody mama bear in the house…
Other tidbits: I have been pretty worked up about a miscarriage–thinking sex will cause it, mild jogging or crossing my legs funny will. It’s all from ignorance, but to reassure myself, I researched statistics on miscarriages (by the time it took me to write all that, views on my forum post jumped to 1083). Baby has a 70% of miscarrying within the first 2 weeks (you don’t even know it), after that, between 3-6 weeks, chances drop down to 10%. after you hear a heartbeat, it drops again to 5% or lower. This encouraged me and helped lift my spirits.
I realized how devastated I would be if I would miscarry. I am getting so excited to go through my pregnancy to full term and meet little one.
Sam is excited too! (He may not look it in this picture, but he is!)
Only a week and a few days til our first doctor’s appointment!
Have a great week and don’t forget to be positive!